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According to a survey commissioned by AT&T, 40 percent of texters who are in a relationship or dating believe that text messaging plays a significant or very significant role in their relationships.

"People have discovered that there are moments when just the right text, sent at just the right time, can go a long way to keeping romance alive," said Alecia Bridgwater, director of Messaging for AT&T's wireless unit. "We wanted to understand more deeply how our customers were using text messaging in this way, and our study turned up some interesting insights."

Dee Casey, a 26-year-old AT&T customer from San Antonio, said: "I spend a ton of time texting every day. I think it's much easier to flirt via text message than in person because you have a moment to think of a cute, flirty, creative response without being embarrassed about what the other person will think."

Love Taps

The love note has evolved from "roses are red" references scrawled on stationery to fast and flirty text messages. AT&T's dating survey revealed more and more couples are tapping out sweet nothings on their cell phones whenever the mood strikes.

According to the survey:

  • Sixty-eight percent of texters surveyed admitted to sending a love note via text messaging.
  • Sixty-seven percent have used text messaging to flirt.
  • Fifty-two percent said "thinking of you" is the most common text message received from a date or spouse.
  • Twenty-eight percent indicated that they text at least three times a day with a significant other or spouse.

Love at First Text

Exchanging text messages before a first date can help put everyone at ease. Texting also allows you to be more clever and thoughtful in what you say.

  • Thirty-four percent of texters in a relationship or dating agreed they would be more comfortable on a first date if they received a text message beforehand.
  • Twenty-six percent agreed that someone would be more likely to accept a first date with them if they have exchanged text messages first.
  • Fifty-eight percent admitted they have at least occasionally shown a friend a text message from a suitor to get his or her interpretation.
  • Thirty-eight percent admitted that their wireless phone has saved them from an uncomfortable dating situation.

Love Hurts

Texting for love isn't without its challenges. One of the great things about texting during a new relationship is the time it allows you to collect your thoughts and your courage before initiating communication. On the flip side, it also could possibly create uncertainty and frustration if the recipient of the message waits too long to respond.

  • Eighty-four percent of those surveyed believe that text messages can sometimes be misunderstood by a date or suitor.
  • Twenty-four percent said the biggest turnoff when texting with a date or a spouse is a slow response.
  • Eighty-two percent, however, said they answer a text message immediately or as quickly as possible.
  • One-third of texters who are in a relationship or dating indicated they would get upset if a date/spouse responded to a wireless call while on a date, although 44 percent admitted to answering their wireless phone while on a date.

Love Through the Ages

It's not easy getting back in the love game after sitting on the sidelines for a while. There are many adults who find themselves single again and are quickly learning that the rules of engagement, as well as the tools of engagement, have changed over the years. Sending text messages to flirt, make romantic plans and, in some extreme cases, to break up is completely alien to many of a certain age.

So just how does age factor into adults' views of texting and dating?

  • Thirty-seven percent of respondents who are 18-35 said they text at least three times a day with their significant other compared with 22 percent of those who are 36-55.
  • Seventy-four percent of respondents who are 18-35 have flirted via text messaging compared with 60 percent of those who are 36-55.
  • Twenty-six percent of respondents ages 18-35 admitted to texting more than one person at a time to invite them on a date or for other romantic reasons, but only 7 percent of those who are 36-55 have done the same.
  • Thirty percent of respondents ages 18-35 have texted friends and family to update them on a blind date compared with 19 percent of respondents who are 36-55.

Survey Methodology

AT&T's 2008 text dating survey was conducted by Synovate via an online consumer opinion panel of 1,000 adults ages 18-55 in May 2008.

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